Welcome to this post featuring one of the best personality test icebreakers Bryan and I have done! I am excited to hear your thoughts when YOU take the test. The test is coming up in this post so keep reading! 🙂
As a military couple, we occasionally have the opportunity to participate in marriage retreats called “Strong Bonds”. I know what some of you are thinking 😉. But contrary to many opinions of these organized events thought to force awkward conversations talking about “feelings“, Bryan and I are always excited to be a part. Early on, we both realized how important it is to take time to “get away” together and re-focus on addressing how we can improve and strengthen our marriage. Even in the military with so many changes in work, friend circles, and location, it is still so beneficial for us as a couple to have a chance to escape and refresh…even just for a weekend. We have learned a lot about each other through the topics of focus during these weekends and always find it laughable how different husbands and wives (and personalities in general) are.
This past February, we spent the weekend at the Hotel Alyeska for a Strong Bonds retreat. Like I said, even if you aren’t into the sessions, the get-away alone is refreshing!
(Photo from http://chicagomag.com/)
For this retreat, we had about two 1-hour sessions per day, meal times and designated personal time to relax. I was completely ecstatic to have our friends Bonnie and Shane – you may remember them from our Styled Winter Wedding Inspiration Shoot as company for the weekend! We had a great time catching up and took a long evening hike enjoying the beautiful weather and scenery. The best part about these retreats is meeting and connecting with couples who are going along in life’s stages just like you and share similar challenges and experiences in marriage and life in general. It is always encouraging to be surrounded by people committed to prioritizing their marriage and family and overcoming obstacles and differences as they walk through life.
In the past, the retreats covered the materials of The Five Love Languages and Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage….which are still two of the best marital resources we love! The material we focused on this particular weekend was Listener-Speaker communication technique (for healthy ways to communicate and combat natural tendencies during conflicts) and the Primary Color Personality Test….They are BOTH helpful if you are interested.
I think the main point of many of these conferences, sessions and studies all point to different aspects of one main thing:
We are each uniquely different than our spouse, and it is when we learn, understand and accept how and why our spouse is the way they are that we can relate with them, appreciate them, and love them best.
Now….let me prove it to you. 🙂 Our chaplain lead us through this icebreaker that had me in tears with laughter (you will see why), and I think you will find it pretty interesting as well when taking this test with your spouse or fiance’. This is NOT my content…I am not sure who to give reference to this test material but they are brilliant! 🙂
Okay, here we go!
Step 1. No peeking at your spouse’s drawing. You have 2 minutes. Draw a Pig. Go!
Step 2. Reveal Your Pig Drawings to each other.
Step 3. Analysis of the pigs – and what they reveal about you! 😉
- a realist,
- have a tendency to be direct,
- may enjoy playing the role of devil’s advocate;
- am prone to neither fearing nor avoiding confrontational discussions,
- have a tendency to be analytical,
- may be prone to being cautious to the point that you struggle with trust,
- have a tendency to be secure and to stick to your ideals,
- others may describe me as stubborn,
- am a decent listener
- and am moderately intelligent.
- a realist,
- has a tendency to be direct,
- is prone to neither fearing nor avoiding confrontational discussions,
- has a tendency to be emotional and to focus on the larger picture rather than focusing on details,
- has a tendency to be a great risk taker and may sometimes be prone to reckless and impulsive decisions,
- and is living through a major period of change and as a result you may be prone to struggling with insecurities.
But listening???? His pig doesn’t even have ears. No wonder we are always working on communication skills haha! And No body, NO LEGS, NO TAIL….I think by the time this last analysis statement was made we were completely surprised and amused at the descriptions. I think he should get some extra credit for that hair though!
So how did you do? I would love to see pictures or hear how you and your spouse/fiance’ drew your pigs differently or alike! I am so appreciative to the chaplains who put this weekend and itinerary together and I so hope that each of you find time to get away (it doesn’t have to be expensive or time-consuming…but it does take time and planning – especially if you have little ones and/or pets) re-focus on your relationship, retreat from the everyday-grind, and re-invest in each other in a positive life-giving way! I know that not everybody is eligible for a Strong Bonds retreat, but I do know some churches offer similar things! Check them out! Best of luck and I hope this makes you laugh out loud today!